Jewish Weddings

According to Jewish tradition, marriages are made in heaven. Men and women are brought together to marry one another by God himself. Women are not married "to" men. Rather, men and women are joined together in marriage. Because of this tradition, the joining word on Jewish wedding invitations reads "and" instead of "to."

Jewish custom also celebrates the joining of the two families, so the names of the groom's parents always appear on the invitations. Their names most properly appear beneath the groom's name and a line reading "son of Mr. and Mrs. Solomon Lang" or on two lines that read, "son of / Mr. and Mrs. Solomon Lang." Their names may also appear at the top of the invitations beneath the names of the bride's parents. This is done occasionally by parents of the bride who feel that they honor the groom's parents more by placing their names at the top of the invitation. When this is done, the request line reads, "at the marriage of." The bride, in this case, uses her full name but no title. The groom's title is omitted as well to maintain uniformity.

Hebrew lettering is often used on Jewish wedding invitations. It may take the form of a quotation from the wedding blessing, blind embossed across the top of the invitations, or the entire invitation text may be reproduced on a part of the invitation. When the invitation appears in both English and Hebrew, the Hebrew version appears on the right-inside page.

Is it proper to use "at the marriage of their children"?

While it is equally correct to use "at the marriage of their children" and "at the marriage of," many people feel that if a couple is old enough to get married, they are no longer children.